Getting the girl of your dreams can turn out to…
women use I have read that a
trillion times now you all take a look at these facts
decoding her phrases
1) She says: “I’m not angry.”
Why she does this: If she’s pursing her lips and not speaking to you,
but claims she’s not angry, she’s probably bluffing.
She could simply be bottling up her anger or she may think that her man should just
know why she’s upset, without her having to tell him.
What you should do: Try to figure out why she’s upset and talk about it.
The issue is not going to go away. In fact, if you don’t deal with it,
she’ll just have bottled-up anger toward you
and it’ll come back to bite you later.
2) She says: “I think of you as a brother.”
What she means: I’m not attracted to you.
Why she does this: She probably wants to preempt your hitting on
her with this sneaky little line.
It serves the purpose of letting you know she’s not into you,
and of course, it’s kinder than telling you the truth.
What you should do: In this case, it’s what you shouldn’t do:
Don’t make a move on her.
3) She says: “I like your friends, but…”
What she means: I don’t like your friends.
Why she does this: She doesn’t want to come off as controlling
or insulting to you or your friends,
so she’s not going to tell you outright how much she dislikes them.
She probably thinks they’re a bad influence on you and
wants you to hang out with them less.
What you should do: It depends on what she says she doesn’t like about them.
If she has a valid reason to dislike them,
then you might take her concerns into consideration.
Otherwise, simply tell her that your friends are important to you and that you’d
like her to make more of an effort to get along with them.
4) She says: “You don’t communicate enough.”
What she means: How do you feel about me and our relationship?
Why she does this: She wants to know how you are feeling and
where the relationship is going,
but doesn’t want to come off as needy.
She is hoping you’ll volunteer your
thoughts and feelings on your relationship.
What you should do: Put her mind at ease and tell
her what you think about the relationship.
If you don’t do it now, she’ll just find another way to ask you.
5) She says: “Why don’t you try to kiss me like this?”
What she means: I don’t like the way you do it.
Why she does this: She doesn’t want to hurt your feelings.
But this is not all bad;
she likes you enough to want to work at it and make it better.
What you should do: Try it her way and see how it goes.
6) She says: “I really like that guy’s hair.”
What she means: I don’t like yours.
Why she does this: She figures that it’s a lot nicer to hint
at this than to tell you outright.
What you should do: Get a second opinion on your hair.
She may be right that it needs a change.
But if your second opinion tells you otherwise,
feel free to stick to your guns and your hairstyle. In that case,
just pretend that you didn’t get her hint.
She wants to know how she looks in her new dress?
Here’s exactly what you’re going to say…
7) She says: “Your love handles are so cute.”
What she means: Get rid of them, please.
Why she does this: Most women know
what it’s like to struggle with body issues,
so she would never insult you by
telling you that you need to head to the gym.
This way, she’s letting you know
that you do indeed have love handles,
but in a kind and gentle way.
(Note: There may be a small
percentage of women who are sincere when they
compliment your love handles.
How do you tell the difference? It’s all in her tone of voice.)
What you should do: This one’s up to you.
I wouldn’t go to the gym simply to please someone else
(love handles generally are not deal breakers anyway). But feel free to go if it’ll please you.
8) She says: “How do I look in this [insert clothing item]?”
What she means: I need more reassurance from you.
Why she does this: She is somewhat insecure and needs
more reassurance than you’ve been giving her. She really wants to hear a
“you look beautiful/hot/wonderful” from you.
What you should do: Tell her what she wants to hear,
unless she is modeling a particularly ill-fitting item of clothing
(you want to bend the truth here, not completely lie).
he says: “Why do you wash the dishesclean the floor/fold clothes like that?”
What she means: You are doing it wrong.
Why she does this: She doesn’t want to discourage
you by telling you that you’re doing household
chores wrong or not in the way that she likes.
She wants you to keep helping out
with chores, but do it her way.
What you should do: Do it her way;
it’ll be less of a hassle in the long run.
9) She says: “I want to do something together.”
What she means: We need more one-on-one time together.
Why she does this: She is saying it in this roundabout
way to avoid coming off as needy.
What you should do: It depends how much
time you are spending together.
If you don’t spend much time together, you can increase it.
If you already spend most of your time together,
you can ignore the hint.
Remember:What you do early on in the
relationship will set the tone for the rest of it,
so don’t feel that you have to give in to everything she demands.
Don’t be surprised when your
woman’s words have a double meaning.
Unlike men, a woman will often hint or change her tone of voice
to get her message across.
But if you learn to read subtleties like
her intonation, gestures and expressions,
you’re less likely to be caught off guard.
So after reading the above list, the next time you so brazenly
ignore her hints and suggestions,
I expect that it will be fully intentional on your part.
and bye enjoy