Some men believe that women gravitate toward men who are aggressive when it comes to putting their bid in. This is not always the case. Most women like a man who can control his emotions, who has developed a sense of knowing when and how to be aggressive and who has learned when to ease off the gas and cruise in for the catch. There is a fine line between eager and desperate, just as there is between obsessive and aggressive. Understand that in the early stages of dating, a woman is providing you with the opportunity to make a great impression.
Take advantage of this time frame. One of the tricks to dating is to keep a woman interested enough to see that you are not in desperate need of her attention. The alluring affect of the honeymoon stage that’s often shared between couples can be quite intoxicating. Try your best to slow your tempo. Take the reigns and allow a pace to emerge that will always have her coming back for more. Make her miss you. Offering a woman every bit and piece of you will potentially extinguish her interest in a shorter period of time than if she were fed bread crumbs along the way. Limiting your availability at the onset will also raise your value in her eyes, as it indicates that you have a sense of independence. The elements of surprise and mystery work well in keeping her intrigued. Making her seem like an enhancement to your life by “taking time out of your busy schedule” to spend with her will make her feel special.
Here are some helpful tips that will make her miss you and keep her coming back for more.
Get a life
If you have an overabundance of free time on your hands, it is highly suggested that you fill up that void with hobbies and activities. This will help in keeping your temptation to call or hang out with her to a minimum. Remember, having other interests outside of her gives the impression that you are OK with “me” time. Codependence in the beginning stages of a relationship is the No. 1 deterrent in the dating rule book, and this will definitely not make her miss you.
Make her wonder if you’re thinking of her
When you take a woman out on a date, other than calling to make sure she made it home safely, do not call her to discuss the date in detail the following day. Let her bask in the romance and give her time to imagine what your next interaction will entail. Calling her two or three days later is fine, as it lets her know that you’re thinking of her. Also, let some time pass before you ask her out on the next date. Buffering the time between contact with her is a major step in making her miss you.
Limit your telephone interaction
The mature approach to keeping a woman interested is to limit your availability. Refrain from answering all of her calls, and when she leaves a message that isn’t urgent, allow a few hours to pass before you return her call (the same applies for text messages). But be sure to ALWAYS remain courteous and return the call at some point. Be mindful not to cross the fine line between stimulating her interest and seeming uninterested — if you’re not interested, you can’t make her miss you.
Limit the time you spend with her
The importance of pacing yourself cannot be overstressed, as this will allow the romance to evolve naturally. The best way to do this is to put yourself on a two- to three-month schedule. During the first two or three months of your interaction, only meet with her during the week for small outings, such as dinner, a movie or an art showing. Keep it sweet and simple; show just enough to entice her and to exhibit your creativity. Weekends are reserved for intimate exchanges between couples. In the meantime, give the impression that you have a weekend life and use the weekdays as the opportunity to make her miss you and desire inclusion in your weekends.
Shifting and shuffling your feet waiting for an invite into her home at the end of a date is not recommended. It is not necessary to extend an evening longer than it should be at this point in your interaction. If you do, you run the risk of getting caught up in the honeymoon stage. Politely walk her to her door, then leave promptly. This brings closure to the moment, and also gives her room to miss you.
Don’t accept all her invitations
Decline a few of her invitations, specifically those that include groups of friends. Remember, having a social calendar gives the impression that she will not become your only source of entertainment in the event you end up in a relationship with her.
i want you to want me
All of these tips are keys in making a woman miss you or having her bask in the wave of fluttering butterflies and anticipation for the next time she sees you, and these tips truly work wonders during the initial stages of getting to know a woman. Don’t forget that as the relationship develops, it is essential to have a life of your own. Space, which can often be confused with disconnection, allows a woman to be herself, by herself, which will benefit you in the long run. Who knows, it may even expand the lifetime of your relationship with her.