How to make Her Approach You
Far too often, we focus on only one-half of the bigger picture. In regards to encounters between men and women, in which both are seeking romantic candidates, we men spend the vast majority of our time contemplating our approach. In fact, you can find multiple articles by yours truly that revolve around the concept of a man approaching a woman, as it’s typically the launching pad for erotic and exciting adventures. However, we should always look past the “traditional” or the “accepted” and recognize that women can and often do approach men, and if you’d rather let that sweet-looking lady at the end of the bar (you know, the one who’s been eyeing you for 15 minutes) shoulder the burden of nerves, pay close attention. This is all about how to make her approach you, a novel idea for some, but an essential, tried-and-true option in the experienced Player’s grab bag.
Make yourself available
Don’t take this literally. Clearly, if you’re in the club checking out the lovely, curvy attendees, you’re a free agent examining the market. However, invert your knowledge of the flirting game and apply it to the opposite situation: If it’s exceedingly difficult for men to break into groups of women, why should it be any easier for a woman to crack a set of guys? While some say it’s a less intimidating prospect for women — primarily because men are supposedly more likely to welcome a great-looking girl into their midst with no questions asked — most women will say otherwise. The truth is, if you want to make her approach you, separate yourself from the rest of your party. If you’re already alone, great, but if you’re not, step away so she doesn’t have to summon quite as much courage.
Don’t be so subtle
While it’s certainly true that subtlety is a major aspect of the flirting process, this is one situation where you may want to risk more overt behavior. If the two of you have already locked eyes, this means you’ve already “marked” each other. You are familiar with this step — it’s when you’re both aware of where the other is, and you will continually seek out signs of possible interest. Usually, this is where the man considers his approach without entertaining the other option. Instead, try something new. Make her approach you by trying a few big smiles, raising a glass in a simple salute, hinting with a wink, or if you want to get brazen, you could simply wave her over. Besides a quick shake of the head in a negative reply, what are you really risking? Subtlety can be construed as fear, while some obvious behavior can translate to confidence.